Learning to deal with difficulties and tone down doom-and-gloom thinking is important, but figuring out how to amplify the good stuff is equally integral to your satisfaction with life.

How do you do that?

Through savoring, the art of “generating, intensifying, or prolonging positive feelings in response to positive events,” says Fred Bryant, Ph.D., professor of psychology at Loyola University Chicago, who coined the term "savoring" as a form of emotional intelligence in the mid1980s.

Savoring: the art of generating, intensifying, or prolonging positive feelings in response to positive events.

Savoring doesnʼt just mean going wild over a piece of dark chocolate or luxuriating in a fragrant bubble bath. It means recognizing happy moments big and small—catching a fly ball in a Little League game, maybe, or making the train in the nick of time—and allowing yourself to fully appreciate and enjoy them. Doing so will help you reach your maximum happiness potential, Bryant says.

Savoring doesn’t just mean going wild over a piece of dark chocolate or luxuriating in a fragrant bubble bath.

Not everyone is naturally adept at savoring, though women tend to be better at it than men and extroverts better than introverts. Luckily, itʼs a skill that can be learned by anyone. Practice these savoring strategies.

1. Marvel at the Mundane

Cultivate awe and wonder at the world around you.

You donʼt have to be standing in front of the Grand Canyon to appreciate your surroundings. The corner of the building you pass by every day may look striking against the sky. The approaching dark cloud is dazzlingly ominous. As you drive to the store or walk to your office, notice the beauty in both the mundane and the magnificent, Bryant suggests.

2. Share the Good Stuff

So if you appreciated the silhouette of that building façade against the clouds, you can extend the pleasure by telling others about it, whether passersby or your partner.

One study, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology by the American Psychological Association, found that communicating personal positive events—“I had a really great workout today” or “My colleague told me he thought my idea was brilliant”—with others was associated with increased daily well-being.

Sharing genuine pleasure and happiness is not the same as showing off, Lombardo says, especially if you are equally receptive to hearing the good news of others.

3. Get Nostalgic

Nostalgia has taken on negative connotations in the past few decades, with the current cultural emphasis on living in the moment. But itʼs OK—and necessary, really—to look back fondly. In fact, savoring your past can help you better enjoy today, too, Bryant says.

In one of his papers, published in the Journal of Happiness Studies, a group of test subjects was instructed to spend 10 minutes a day reminiscing about pleasant memories, while a control group was asked to think about current concerns for 10 minutes a day. After a week, the reminiscing folks reported significantly greater increases in the percentage of time they felt happy over the course of the week than the control group.

Daniel Kahneman, Ph.D., author of Thinking, Fast and Slow, challenges his readers with a thought experiment: If you could take an amazing first-class, fourstar free vacation in a tropical paradise, with the catch being that you wouldnʼt remember a second of it once it was over, would you go?

Maybe you would or maybe you wouldn't, but the fact that we pause at all in our consideration highlights the importance of memories to our enjoyment of an experience. The best parts of a vacation, research has shown, are the planning of it and the looking back on it. So get out all those old photos and reminisce, whether itʼs a past vacation or your eighth-grade dance or the birth of your child.

4. Be Thankful

Gratitude is a key part of savoring, says Bryant.

Gratitude is a key part of savoring.

Say someone gives you a scarf. You might think it was thoughtful and genuinely like the color and fabric. But take it further, he suggests. Imagine your friend going to the store and picking out the scarf, considering your taste and eye color as he did so. Think of the time it took for him to drive to the store, buy the present, wrap it up and deliver it to you. Itʼs hard not to appreciate the gift even more after youʼve considered everything that went into it. Thatʼs savoring.

A gratitude journal can be great, says Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D., author of Better than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love, as long it doesnʼt become just another item on your to-do list.

Really think about and visualize what youʼre grateful for. If you write down “my spouse,” for example, remember a great meal or activity you shared together recently. Imagine the scent of him or the way her hand feels in yours. List some of the things you appreciate and love about him or her.

5. Ruminate on the Positive

Say you have a great conversation with a neighbor in which you opened up about your hopes and life goals. Later, in bed, will you think about how lucky you are to have such a friendly neighbor and how nice it is to be able to share your feelings with like-minded folk? Or will you worry that you divulged too much and become embarrassed?

Humansʼ natural negativity bias suggests the latter, but according to Bryant (and the ethos of positive psychology), we can flip that bias.

We can flip our negativity bias.

Stop the negative ruminating (which Lombardo likens to “pressing on a bruise”) by acknowledging your feelings of embarrassment or shame and moving on. Then allow yourself to really feel good about the exchange. You were charming and interesting. Your neighbor was gracious and funny. Together, you shared a moment of connection. Thatʼs worth savoring, no?

Patty Onderko, SUCCESS Magazine